Throughout the years, bullying has been an aspect of society. There is always two sides to the equation and only one side is going to come out on top. Unfortunately, the child that is the brunt end of the physical or emotional bullying is going to suffer terribly. They can lose their self esteem and confidence. Dealing with school bullies is anything, but easy, because public school systems aren’t fit to do it! The disciplinary systems in public schools is beyond laughable! If your child is dealing with a bully, you will want to read the information below to find guidance.
An Overview of Bullying
Definition of Bullying
What exactly is bullying? My own Brainiac dictionary tells me that bullying is one individual exerting their prowess onto another, who typically accepts the abuse. Of course, each different victim with deal with their bullying in a unique manner. Confidence, background and previous encounters can all play a role in bullying and how it is handled, by the victim.
What is a bully?
Although it doesn’t seem like it to the victim, a bully is typically a mental midget, who must exert him or herself onto another, in order to make themselves feel superior. In the eyes of the victim, the bully is someone, who is invulnerable. Sadly, the victim will likely feel immense fright and terror, when they encounter this individual! In fact, the victim will likely go above and beyond to avoid their attacker at all costs. Unfortunately, bullies intend to cause harm and will do their best to ensure that they do!
Bullying Facts and Statistics
Over the years, bullying has grown into an epidemic. Unfortunately, it hasn’t shown any sign of dissipating anytime soon! The American school systems are incompetent, unable and unwilling to curb bullying. Below, you will find some specific facts and statistics of bullying.
- American schools are home to over 2 million bullies. Their victims? Nearly 3 million! Which means that each bully targets more than one victim!
- Over 70% of children agree that bullying is a major problem at their school!
- Over 150,000 children skip school each day, in order to avoid a bully!
- Almost all bullying is repetitive and doesn’t end, after one or two incidents.
Different Types of Bullying
When it comes down to it, bullying is very similar to domestic violence. They share a commonality that there are two different types, physical and emotional. Although they are both abuse and detrimental to the victim’s mental health, both work differently.
Physical Bullying: Physical bullying is just that. It is physical and usually results in visible wounds about the victim’s face and body. Physical abuse is usually readily visible and noticeable. Therefore, it is typically easier to identify. Bullying in a physical manner goes back deep within the history books. It is likely that this was often excused away as boys just being boys.
Emotional Bullying: One would think that the physical abuse is worse, but it is often not. Unfortunately, emotional abuse tends to be kept deep within, until it builds up and explodes. As a parent, it is much more difficult to identify emotional bullying. It is vital to speak with your children, in order to learn about this type of behavior. With the popularity of the Internet and social media, emotional abuse has transitioned to the World Wide Web, where it can be even more impactful and harmful.
Both types of bullying can be very harmful and lead to all sorts of anguish.
The Long Lasting Effects of Bullying
Much like domestic violence, bullying tends to have long lasting effects. The effects of bullying can be carried on through the rest of the victim’s life. Not only are victims of bullying much more likely to suffer from depression, but they’re also more likely to turn to alcohol and drugs. These individuals can retreat into themselves and hide away from society. This can cause them to become withdrawn and anti-social. It can also cause anxiety and mental health issues. Suffice to say, the effects are long lasting, detrimental and eye-opening.
How to Deal with Bullies at School
Unfortunately, attempting to deal with a bully is very difficult and each case is different. While someone might have a layout for dealing with school bullies, it doesn’t mean that it’ll be successful in your particular case. There are many different steps that parents can take and they often do. Below, you will find some of these techniques.
A Change of Venue: Some parents will switch their children’s school. Although this isn’t always effective, it can work sometimes. Researching your child’s school thoroughly is recommended, in order to avoid those that ignore the abuse, in order to keep the statistics low.
Fighting Back: Other parents will provide their children with self-defense training and tell them to fight back. Unfortunately, this isn’t always successful either! Sometimes, the children are so terrified and timid that they will not be able to perform under the pressure. Still, these classes can be beneficial for helping to reignite and boost their self-confidence and esteem.
Ignore and Avoid: Some children will be able to have success, by ignoring their bullies and walking away. Although this can work, it isn’t always going to be successful. Bullies do not like being ignored and it may only escalate the situation further. Still, it is well worth a shot. For cyber bullying, this is often the best course of action. Attempting to contact Google or Facebook to have the content removed is often fruitless and will only lead to frustration.
Speak to Principal: Sometimes, you may need to take action, by speaking to the principal. This can sometimes be helpful, but it can also be very disheartening. Again, school systems ignore bullying and attempt to protect their school’s reputation, by keeping statistics low. Still, getting loud can sometimes encourage them to take appropriate actions. Speaking to the school board is typically the same and will usually only leave you without a hope in the world.
Try the Buddy System: Sometimes, your child might be able to prevent the bullying, by sticking together with his or her buddies! It is possible that the bully will stay away, if they’re outnumbered. Of course, some children aren’t fortunate enough to have a large amount of friends in school and bullying can quickly deplete their friend base.
Continue Reinforcing Your Child: Ultimately, it is best to continue reinforcing your child. When they’re a victim of bullying, they need more support than ever! Therefore, you should continue boosting them up and letting them know that they do not deserve the abuse. School doesn’t last forever and it will eventually go away! In the same sense, you shouldn’t scold your child for not standing up to their bully, as this can be counter productive.
Unfortunately, there is no single proven course of action for dealing with a bully. Instead, you’ll need to try all of the above, until the problem disappears. Just be sure to keep providing your child with emotional support throughout the terrible ordeal.
Home School: Is home schooling possible for everyone? No, but it can be an effective way to put a halt to bullying. Still, it doesn’t come, without negatives. Home schooling isn’t going to be an option for many individuals, but if it is, you should definitely consider it more thoroughly! Of course, this type of education means you’ll need to ensure that your child is exposed to other children in one way or another, in order to assure that they remain socially active.
Overall, bullying is a very serious problem that can lead to more problems in the future. Therefore, it is vital to learn all about the different types and figure out the right course of action for you and your child. Never get angry at your child, during this period of time, because it will only worsen the situation.